12 years of marriage she still doubts me

CrowThreads: 367 Posts: 7,316 Joined: Feb 14, 07 ♂ [Suspended]	Mar 20, 11, 08:15 #61
zahi: yes my wish then suffer

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Mar 20, 11, 10:42 #62

zahi:

i bow to it

Good, you are doing fine. Just go ahead make the most of your life. You already do have some good tips, vacation is a great idea.

zahi:

Marynka11:
is your wife a housewife?

hmm yes

In a way I think you are not wrong. If you are capable enough for her basic needs, there is not such great fun to become a wage slave for the sake of "sex appeal" as someone puts it. Nothing better than a functional family ...

Hey you are doing good with your family. Just go have fun, and nice idea to end laboring behind a demanding job when you can actually live without it.

Good luck.

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Mar 20, 11, 16:36 #63

I just like your topic I am going through the same thing.....I AM doing well in sweden even though i dont have full time job but am Ok on my own but my wife convince me to come to poland because she has a house in poland...Now I am in poland everytime is fight.....if we smile and play in morning before Night we must fight......I think all polish ladies or woman do this.........I have been looking out here for this but today i saw someone who is going through what am going through..........................dont know what to do ....the road is getting worse I think I have to turn back

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Mar 20, 11, 16:47 #64

kingdom26:

everytime is fight.

Where are you origionally from?

This guy to me seems like more adjusted than you. You seem to be trapped in a relationship, while he seems to be working on it. He've been successful with it for 12 long years with children man! Read through, he is looking for vacations aswell.

I think his wife loves him, and you have a way different problem. Such little inconveniences at middle or later stages of a marriage can happen I think, people need to revise and bring a fresh air. I believe for Zahi its just a matter of a vacation ... but for you it sounds sinister.

This is nothing particular with Polish woman. I've seen my mom complain with my dad, but it was for the good of us, our home, and the good for their relationship. They had a healthy relationship, and my mom pushed him sometimes for it. It is not as bad as it may sound sometimes. It is like a child not wanting to wake up in the morning, but must for the school.

For you it sounds like you are giving up ... how old is your relationship? Are you Swedish?

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Mar 20, 11, 17:08 #65

kingdom26:

if we smile and play in morning before Night we must fight

I can tell you what irritates me the most.. maybe this is her feelings too.

We dont like to make the meals and then have to clean up afterwards while someone else sits
on their behind and gets to relax.

its very tiring to make a nice meal and then do the clean up work alone. maybe you just need to
help around the home a little more , she would probably appreciate that you care enough to make
it easy for her so she can rest too.

in my home our whole family helps, and it makes for a nice evening for everyone.

there is a saying that if momma isnt happy, then nobodys happy :)

lol

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Mar 20, 11, 17:18 #66

Patrycja19:

in my home our whole family helps, and it makes for a nice evening for everyone.

there is a saying that if momma isnt happy, then nobodys happy :)

Mine too ... we have been trained to do this from childhood. My dad used to say that if I'm going to be lazy at home, then I'll regret. He sure was right :D.

Helping in home and all one can is a primary tool for having a good life. Otherwise why to call this a partnership? It is true that one partner extends to support one portion of life, while the other takes major share in another ... but eventually there are stuff where both can help each other too. Its a merged life ...

There are a few threads in this forums of this kind, often complaining about the "Polish wife who nags'. I think that apart from Zahi (in which he seems to be quite in love and control), the others are just not flexible enough themselves. Here the questions arises, "did they really love the girl? Or just got attracted on the date and after the first year, i.e. when the honeymoon period was over, realized that they are not capable for a family".

Patrycja19Threads: 79 Posts: 3,974 Joined: Oct 31, 06 ♀	Mar 20, 11, 17:30 #67
Lodz_The_Boat: Helping in home and all one can is a primary tool for having a good life yes, it isnt the wifes responsiblity to do all of it. There is no doubt that we like to do things for others, because thats in our nature, but its wrong to take advantage of this person that you love. :)

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Mar 21, 11, 11:55 #68

Patrycja19:

but its
wrong to take advantage of this person that you love.

So true, but so much often people do tend to take advantages. Sometimes the girl, other times the boy.

However, perhaps there is always a limit to the advantage one can take. Being in a union of such a relationship like marriage in itself is a great advantage to all the storms looming around a person's life. Specially in this cruel modern era.

I really feel that if people could realize that "not everything can be picture perfect" in life, and yet it can be simply satisfactory, perhaps at times a little usual ... but still keeping us safe.

However, the concept of a vacation is something that every couple should practice. Maybe at least one a year, or if that is not possible, then perhaps they can just try and visit a farm or go trekking for a week around a mountain or a forest. Camp together ... let themselves free from all the worldly thoughts that had seemed almost too big to push away. Often we are the ones who make things big, because we feel that there is no way out of it.

How much does a human need to be truly happy? ... really, worth a thought.

kingdom26Threads: - Posts: 16 Joined: Nov 23, 10 ♂	Mar 22, 11, 11:17 #69
well i will say you got it right but sometimes I sorry my self, but anyway life is full of ups and down I think I have to resume to faith and I hope God will guide me through Thanks fellas

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Mar 22, 11, 11:36 #70

Lot typical Polish woman. Ahem and I mean no offence in that. My fiance is Polish. I come across such things too sometimes and I take such things lightly cause I had been subjected to such things from the start. Blame it on my good looks or always being cajoled by girls.. But with time, it's your understanding with her and concrete trust that negates such thoughts.

Tell her yeah you are cheating on her. Watch her face. I am sure she is gonna be furious. And then say you are kidding... ;) tell her that what she felt now, you had been feeling the same when she doubts on you..

Lodz_The_BoatThreads: 58 Posts: 2,314 Joined: Sep 7, 08 ♂	Mar 22, 11, 17:11 #71
abhishek06: And then say you are kidding... ;) You might get into trouble for that too you know. Your girlfriend seems quite much in trust with you, seems like she only teases you.

kuk	May 27, 11, 13:20 #72
she feels insecure due to other womens so she douts .....or she does so that u dont involve with anyone......or she needs more attention from you...or she is in depression.....or ....... change of hormones may b cause......at last i will say nobody can understand womens nature becusethey changes very often.....so dear ......fix ur target to god ....otherwise u will cry ...without god help.....

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May 27, 11, 15:19 #73

kuk:

she feels insecure due to other womens so she douts .....or she does so that u dont involve with anyone......or she needs more attention from you...or she is in depression.....or ....... change of hormones may b cause......at last i will say nobody can understand womens nature becusethey changes very often.....so dear ......fix ur target to god ....otherwise u will cry ...without god help.....

Or we can all pray together that we all get better at being human...?

Lodz_The_BoatThreads: 58 Posts: 2,314 Joined: Sep 7, 08 ♂	May 27, 11, 17:35 #74
Never saw the poster again ... seems like things got better? ... perhaps he went to the vacation he was so excited about ... a suggestion from the wise ones of PF :D ...

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