it's not about pretty-ugly or cheap-expensive
That was just an example.
what's appropriate and what's not
Who is deciding that? Society? Customs? Conformism?
This stupid 'code' is probably standable as long as it's not caricaturating itself.
i see more wrongs when young women
Who is deciding that? Wrong? Right? Happen to see one of the "Jesus" movies over the easter holidays? What were his followers waering?
The focus is completely wrong. It's not about what you wear when you go to church than THAT you go to church for whatever reasons. You adress the faith NOT the institution and its forms.