What you wanna tell your Ex-Boyfriend?

I am sorry for ever hurting you... for making you believe I can take anything the world can blow on me as long as I have you... I am sorry for being scared to take chances with you... I'm sorry most of all for letting go.

Personally, I'd like to tell my ex-boyfriend to go to hell!

hmmm did you cheat on your b/f?

No... its just hard to go on nurturing this feeling when after a year... we haven't even moved forward. Our situation is a little complex than the usual.

To an ex way in the past.....nothing in this world is worth your life.....no matter what her mother said, at some point, she would have loved you for the wonderful person that you "were"......RIP, Jeremy!

waste of your time...

No offence, polishgirltx, but no relationship is a "waste of time" as long as you learn from it:)

yes, i agree...i meant going back to the past; ex is the past... i've leaned that it's a waste of time... well, let's say - a mistake... :)

Again, I believe there are no mistakes.....we learn from our experiences, good and bad....to quote an ex of my brother's when I ran into her at the grocery (5 years after they split)...."you know,"Ranj", I loved your brother for the person he was and how he treated me (like a lady), but I still had a lot to learn. What I found was a man who possessed every quality I could ever imagine (he was every guy I had ever met and liked, wrapped into one.....he was the "FULL PACKAGE"!)

yes, every experience supposed to make us wiser... but if we learn from our mistakes, why to open something what was closed already....ahhh....i lost my thought....

Dwelling in the past is a mistake... looking back to it is not. I'm sorry if some of you wont agree, but there are things in life I wish i can undo... or change... coz I'm not perfect ;-)
Though knowing that I cant, I just make sure that I end every chapter of my life in the most graceful way possible. Just so one day, if my ex bf wants to waste his time and reminisce, I wont be remembered as a selfish biatch who cares not about other's feelings.

That's a very nice thing to say. Not everyone gets to hear "I'm sorry" from the one who hurt them.

Well, my first boyfriend, so lets call him my first ex, is marrying the girl he had before me. But thinking back, Im not sure he really left her when he was with me, so he was playing us both. So realy, I dont know what to say to him, to tell the truth, I would rather not speak to him at all.

Hmmmm, just an observation, but has anyone else noticed that the only ones that have responded to this thread are female? (except for Polishcanuck, who was just asking if someone cheated.....I guess men really are from Mars and women are from Venus).

Well, the topic does say ex-boyfriend. =P

I agree with you there polishgirltx...an ex boy or girlfriend should be left in the past, and that door closed shut.

There is no need to shut people out of your life. If things don't work out, then that doesn't mean you still can't be friends just to share warm emotional attachment. Unless someone does something really bad to hurt you, then they deserve to be isolated.

If it did not work out, there was a reason for it. Why carry emotional baggage in to a new relationship?, it is time to let go of the past.

Out of the 5 or 6 people I have dated in my life I am only Friends with one of them.



I agree with this totally.

Both people can love each other but they have to be at the same stage of readiness for the relation to move forward.

I think one of the reasons it works for me and my g/f is that we are both at the same stage and want the same things.

I think what poshnpink is trying to do is have some closure so she can move on.

This is not always possible. Sometimes the best thing to do is to 'let go'.

Nothing - I don't talk or go out with exes; it has been nice and now it's over, past tense, no more. There is no point playing on in extra-time...even when it was nice...You will always feel that agonizing nagging in your brain: "what if..." and at some point even a mild form of jealousy when he/she has a new partner: that could've been me if things worked out. Well they didn't, that's why you have broken up. It's as simple as that. Like said, there is no point in playing on in extra-time.

M-G (exceptions do the rule)

Must be, I dont understand the moral of the story......
She dumped your bro and found a guy that was the full package ? Your bro was the nice guy ? She had to dump him to find a bad guy before she realised her mistake ?

Too confusing !!!

The moral of the story is that life is a process......we live and learn (hopefully) :)

True.

And part of the learning process is admitting when we are at fault and ensuring to not commit the same mistakes with those who will get involved with in the future ^_^

Leave me alone finaly ! : )

I was young and stupid and want you back :( But obviously still stupid because every time you give me a chance I run away. I'm scared of dissapointing you. Annnd you're the hottest Polish guy to walk this Earth. In fact, hottest guy full stop :).

And the kindest, sweetest, funniest (when you want to be), and I'm sorry we couldn't talk about our problems before I again, just ran away.

And I hope we never lose touch.

And did you or did you not fancy my best friend?!

It doesn't even matter anymore, I just want him to know that I care and cared a lot more than I showed.

:)

p.s. reflecting on the past is never a bad thing - if you think that then it suggest you might NEED to, as there are obviously some underlying unresolved issues you don't wish to face...?