Women.... please explain this logic

thank you my friend for ur advice. i respect ur advice. 2 days ago when she was back from poland and when she started work the next day she came work and i was not there at work because it was day off so the next day on friday she text me saying hello..how are you and she asked that are you working today...?
but i dont know i feel that she loves me may be....may be not....?i but i love her a lot.... i hope she is not cheating with me....???

I don't think it's cheating, as such, if neither of you have acted on your feelings, but texts and confessions of feelings behind her boyfriend's back is certainly no indication of an honest person. Perhaps she has her reasons, but she would have to choose between you for it is unfair on both of you.

I don not mean to place seeds of doubt itno your head about her feelings for you, and how she would behave if you did pursue a relationship, just perhaps a caution that if she can treat one man with dishonesty, she could do so with another - you.

I cannot tell you if she loves you, and you can only guess if she still does. This is why real communication is important between you - a proper discussion is needed to be able to define what is happening between you and if you have a future together.

I hope it turns out well for you. As I say, these are only my opinions. Please, do not follow it without real thought as to what you want. Even, wait until others have given an opinion too, they may have better advice than I can offer! One person's opinion alone has the possible tendency to be wrong!

thank u my friend...ur a very good person and agood friend to me....if u dont mind me asking you what is ur name and you from which country???

I don't mind at all - I'm Sofi (Sophia) from Scotland.

Good luck in whichever form of action you take.

Pronounced Soph-ee-a!

nice name sophia my friend..its very kind of you for ur advice... u seem a good person to me...

thank you :)


One wishes !
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i hope she is not cheating and i hope she loves me and me honestwith me....i really love her a lot and if when i know that she cheated me then i will break totally and its going to be very hard for me....next to impossible for me to bare the pain in my heart...i am worried

Londonboy, I haven't followed your problem here very closely,
but how many relationships start when one of the couple are still with someone else?
Some people need the security of being with someone, whether they are in love or not.
Many people don't find leaving a relationship, or starting a new one, very easy.
Treat things carefully, and if she loves you, it should all work out.
If you come to the stage you are sure she doesn't love you,
do your best not to dwell on it.
Good luck, sir.

thank u my friend ..its kind of you..i hope everything will be fine by grace of god....god knows how much i love her.....

I am sorry to hear that. I fit does not work out for you, yes there will be a lot of pain that will feel ovewhelming... I cannot say there won't be.. As others before you will know, the harsh reality is life must go on. The only comfort I hear is that time to heal is the remedy. I imagine this would seem difficult/impossible to you since you love her so much, but if it does not work out between you, there is only one solution and that is to move on and be strong in a difficult time - there's no real cure for a broken heart as such... You never know your future, perhaps somebody else will capture your heart who can be with you properly. At first I doubt it could seem so, but the future is unpredictable. I'm sorry that I can't suggest anything that would lighten the feeling of heartache, for I don't think there is anything.

May the outcome be favourable for you.

thank u sophia ...i know whatever truth it is ..i will have to face....but my problem that i cant be that strong enough to bear this that she cheated me or lie with me....i hope this is not the truth and hope God will help me and one day she will also...i hope so

Maybe she was having one of those days when she wasnt feeling so confident. I sleep naked and walk around naked infront of my boyfriend all of the time. I cook dinner naked and hoover my carpet naked, especially in the summer when its too hot, so not all girls are the same.

Careful with the steam iron !

Luckily I hate ironing and only do it occassionally when I absolutely have to : )

i think the whole "don't look at me while I'm getting dressed" thing is an insecurity issue. I mean..when you're in the moment and having sex and all that jazz, intercourse takes the attention away from her "flaws. When she's getting dressed and you're just staring, she might think that you're going to see her flaws and there's nothing she can do (such as having sex) to take the focus off of them other than saying "don't look".

Londonboy... why waste your time with someone who has baggage(child) and emotional baggage(boyfriend)?

From what you have written, you clearly are not happy. Move on!!

find yourself someone worthy of your time and doesn't play games.

after 2 months, that's what i did. When my GF wasn't contributing the relationship, but merely along for the ride, so I let her go. It was difficult, but I feel much better about it now.

excuse me, Nauczyciel, but how can you say a child is "baggage" ???

He's still a child himself, a real man wouldn't refer to a child as baggage

nice insult. completely uncalled for.

I will sling some mud right back at you just so we are even. Is that cat in your avatar, one of the 27 in your 1 bedroom single-wide?

oh yes he would, when he doesn't care to have any. A woman with a child is going to spend more of her time with that child than with the man, so why bother competing?

ooh is that the best you can do?



nah, 185 last time I counted



just cos you don't want any, it's no excuse to call another human being least of all an innocent child 'baggage' that's just hateful

theres your problem,, we as women are modest by nature,, and to feel confident when
in the presence of our husbands/etc etc hearing that we are beautiful and etc etc
takes away any insecure feelings. thus getting dressed doesnt become issues if
we feel that strong secure feeling.. something isnt setting well with her. maybe you
didnt say something or maybe you did and it was something she thought about..

my advice is sit down and have that talk.