ARE YOU MARRIED OR JUST SAYING THAT?

I agree, but in order to be wise, one needs to experience life and have comparison's to make.....it's one thing to go by the heresay of our parents and others....but I think for decisions to be truly accepted by an individual, they have to have the experiences for themself. Not saying that one should never heed advice from those who already have had the experience; just saying it's how we grow in life...to experience our own successes and failures and not someone elses. Hope this makes sense.

Through experience you comes maturity right? ... but that doesnt mean you have to have a certain amount of maturity at certain ages. So many young people are more mature than so many older people already!

A person dont have to do all the mistakes itself... it can learn from other people's mistakes too! We study the right methods in physics and avoid errors... these errors were made by the theories inventors... and they learnt alot from those...but wrote down how to tackle the situations....or about their life.... so we learnt to go ahead from that point forwards!

I am involved with a EAST ASIAN girl! ... I dont usually share it...its personal....but you should know that it was difficult in family, specially with mom! But after alot of convincing, she finally is happy for me and her.

They (the parents) cannot trust the outsider! Its natural, they are concerned for your life...they want your good...and they dont want you to be involved in any PUPPY LOVE. But if you can convince them about your confidence in the relationship...with logic and proove that it is the right thing for you...and she is the right person....then if your parents love you, they will agree. But if they are extremist, and love their ideologies more than you....then you can say that 'they are wrong'. But you must give then the respect... offer them the care and explanation! They deserve it.

Hope this makes sense .

Let me also clarify one thing.....I'm not putting down anyone who finds there one true love early in life....I'm not saying you have to be with lots of others to figure out what you want (I see proof of that in older generations of ie: my parents, grandparents, and even in some younger couples I know).....I believe we all have a path in life......we all have different experiences to encounter in order to help us grow physically, mentally and spiritually. Everyones path is different and nobody should say one person's is wrong, because they've experienced something different....What we experience in life is right for us at that time in life.....again, hope I'm making sense....at least I know what I mean

True.

But we should try best to have stability.

In a perfect world, yes.....but some people choose to go about life the hard way and who's to say that is wrong? If that's what it takes to ensure their growth, then who are you or I or anyone else to tell them it's wrong? There's a saying that I like, that I try to take to heart (again, I'm not always successful in following it, but I try): "There are only 2 real sins in life...to impede one's own growth and to impede the growth of another."

Now, back to the original question.....why do people say they are married or engaged when they are not?

theyre probably just trying it for size so they are fully prepared when the other one finally pops the question... but what would i know... to be sure...

I've been with my other half for 5 years, we've been engaged for three bloody years, but just haven't found the time and or money to get hitched. It takes planning and we've been focussing on other things, but hell yeah I feel very much married.

As I'm sure Bubba will ratify.

there is an expression that springs to mind as i recall a conversation on monte casino...

I have no idea Ranj, most people in Poland are married and I have never heard of somebody who would say that they were married but in fact they weren't unless thay said it because of the religious resons.
Generally, I understand people less the longer I live

hmm quite. Big guy I'm off home now, will be online tomorrow 9 till 9...ciao

ciao bello... say hi to princess H...

Hmmmm? What would that expression be, BW?


I tend to agree with you that, M!

preposition of place... definate article... part of the hand... one on each...

not me baby... not me...