Can you stay friends after being in a relationship with someone ??

I say a clean break. Its to diffucult on both sides and best friends after a relationship just does not work.

But difficult not be some kind of friend if you both have the same circle of friends!

it is okay if neither are seeing other people but when one moves on and starts dating other people again it makes things rather unpleasant.

Yes I agree. In my case my Polish female friend who unilaterally decided we are to be very good friends only now ( we live together until she relocates) is now annoyed because I have just started meeting someone else! This just happened I did not plan it but my female Polish friend is not happy. She keeps asking where we go - what do we do - is she pretty etc. Women eh!

I think you can be friends with some of your ex's but not all, its depends on how deep they got in. In my case my ex and I said we would be just friends and I haven't spoken or contacted her in over a month, but on saying that she hasn't contacted me.. so the bottom line is you can with some but not with all..
Moving on is good but it's finding someone to replace - (which I know is a bad word to use, but couldn't think of another one!) - your ex.
Just be careful not to compair your new one with your old one! thats going to be the test for me.. but she can't be any worst than the last one!!

no bec its doing problem with the bf or ex ppl are jealous

Yes. I've done it. But most of the time, I've found it to be tough. Takes the right people. And a depth of feeling.

if one person feels stronger then the other then a "friendship" only relationship will always leave this person with yearnings and unfullfilled desire. in this case i think a complete break is best. but all is not lost because sometimes you come back together as friends or lovers. it can be a case of timimg. if not you learn and move on takes time and hurts like hell at the time

I wd say a clean cut for a good length of time and then if u still know eachother then become friends again.Unfortunately I am just going thru a similar experience..where she has decided she is going to move on!! I wanted a clean cut (although very mixed up feelings!!) , but she said she can't NOT have me in her life!! How can I control my emotion when I see her?? My heart pumps like hell!! My eyes dialate like anything!! It is NOT possible to be friends with someone you didn't want to part ways with!! If u are the one who wanted it then its a different ball game!!

It depends on the two people involved....Some of my past relationships have ended in bitterness , and there is no way we can be friends , but most of the people in my past i am still friends with....the woman i loved the most is now my best friend , but it was very hard for both of us when the relationship was ending..it takes time to be friends after being in love so much with someone...

I agree it depends on the people, on why you split up. I am still friends with five ex boyfriends, because underneath it all we really LIKED each other as people. Just because the sex/passion/romance went, does not mean you have to lose the friendship.

She is only thinking of herself. You need time apart to decide whether you want to be friends with her or not.. Personally I would need a good break without seeing the person to decide that cos if you still have feelings, you cant just switch them off.

Thats so right Spphire!! She is being soo selfish!! yet my heart beats to her tune!! Love is a funny game!!In right mind one would never go back to this person!! But who can explain it to a heart that is still in love!! A part of me hates her for being so selfish yet the desire to hold her in my arms is overwhelming!! F!ck I hate Love!!

when the other person in our lives moves on it can be difficult, staying friends keeps options open, because sometimes, just sometimes, that person that left turns around to look at what they have left behind, and there they find you :). But dont rely on this - go out with other people.

I think that on the whole we view relationships on a short term basis, when really relationships last our whole lives. We all choose to stay with our best friends.

Stay in contact with your x, if you feel like hugging her then do - who doesn't like been hugged?

It can be done. I've done it myself. But it is best to make a clean break for a bit. Especially if you are the one who still is in love. The one leaving the romantic relationship wants to feel like you are not mad and wants the friendship. It eases their guilt at leaving if there are no hard feelings

And you being the one in love do tend to want something rather then nothing and will often attempt the friendship. It will keep you thinking that maybe she will change her mind. And it will spoil your chance at moving on emotionally.

So, I'd say to her that you would like to be friends eventually, but you need some time to yourself. When you feel ready, you will get in touch.

Then take good care of yourself, go out with other people, do what it takes to get her out of your system as a romantic partner. Then see if you really do want to be friends.

I am making plans to go to Ireland and Poland to see my ex boyfriend of nearly three years. I live in the States and have not seen him in seven years. We are definitely ready to be friends. We have been in email, but now in person. He is married now, I am happy for him. I have a boyfriend and all is well in my life. But, I am so happy at the prospect of seeing my ex again. I really will always have affection and respect for him.

hmmm...i hope Senator that things will work out for you...


yes, but i don't even try to do that anymore... what's done is done...time to move on...

Agreed, I'd say the ONLY way possible is with a long break from contact followed by both parties being involved in new relationships

It's possible. I would give it time though. Otherwise, it is harder to move on. Time heals all wounds. So they say..

I can talk from experience and yes it's good to stay friends but when you do ( and you need to ) move on and meet somebody else ( which you will ) it can cause problems . I wouldn't say a clean break is the answer but maybe just being civil is enough .

Its amazing how one person who you just met few years ago can mean soo much to you and you feel like killing yourself on the prospect of letting them go!! Yet you move on and feel the same passion for someone else!! Sometimes as strong!! Love is a devine cruel joke!! You have everything and then you have nothing!! You can't do without it yet you wish you hadn't!!!
Hope it works out well for all of you guys!!

Wow. Well PUT!

probably not depends on each situation

thats exactly what i find, it really depends on why, how and when you broke up and at what stage of the relationship

agreed

thanks glamrockxx!!
Is Love worth the attention it gets?? Wouldn't it be easier if there was no such notion as Love!! Everything was guided by the cardinal desire between a man and a woman!! It will take the politics out of the equation!! less heartache!! Maybe love making wouldn't be as glamorous but it certainly would be more often!!

you are lucky that you are a man at least, apparantly, generally its a lot easier for them to have sex without any emotions getting involved than it is for women! something to do with hormones.

It's normally fine until one of the party finds someone new

i beg to disagree!!I have tried no string sex!! Its not worth a wa**.Excuse my French!!Its same for a man as well.Yes sometimes a man wants it a little bit more and hence anything will do. but thats very temporary.There is always that sense of worthlessness associated with it , afterwards!! Sex wouldn't be what it is without a touch of love. Love on the otherhand, when goes wrong, makes it difficult to have sex with anyone else!! I know it sounds as if I am contradicting myself!! But thats how it is!! You can't do with love and you can't do without!!

lol you could always be friends with benefits ;) if you catch my drift

He he, you are refering to bonus night?