Do you think your love is true?

Sorry to hear this pingwin .

Haven't found it yet. And I don't expect anything from life anymore.

I have lost my libido once, and I think you know how badly depressed someone can be
when you lose that being a young man. I grew tired of being tired and I've come along way, I figured it would be a good thing to make myself useful. In doing so, I've learned, met new people and slowly recovered.

Just telling you all of this because life isn't all bad, and if I can see that much today, I hope you'll realize you can see it too some day. I don't know what you've been through, and I'm sure it hasn't been too good for you from the sound of things..

But that'll change when you let things happen for a while. That's my advice, just to go with the flow and stop thinking. See what happens. And as for finding love, maybe you
should stop looking for it?

Maybe it'll happen if you relax a little. I took this advice from my best friend, and it helped me a great deal.

I hope you'll be okay man, really I do.

I'm not averse to the idea, I just don't think that i'll try as hard, that's all. Like pushing your car up a hill, in the hope that when you roll down the other side you can bump start it, only to find that you were out of petrol all along. :)

Thanks Arien for a good word. It appears that I can't find love regardless from looking for it or not, this life doesn't treat me too good, but also not too bad at all, it's just overhelming feeling of helplessness and implicit rejection by people around me. I've always been an outsider and will always be - I'm disillusioned about that.

thats not fair. least you have friends here. i believe thier is true love for everyone you have to open your heart.maybe when you least expect it. did you have your heart broken before?

it happens when you least expect it.

that's exactly what I think. It's so true.

if we give up we are defeated. if we fight, theres a good chance we can win.

So far, it always happened to me at the moments I was totally broke. That's why I lost faith in love for a while.

Girls don't like you when you're broke. That's just the truth isn't it? You want to be proud of your man.. And I used to be angry about that, thinking it was so unfair, especially when the girl in question decided some total prick would be a better option for her..

That just hurts. But now I understand the practical way of thinking too. I'm being fair now.. I can understand a girl has no use for someone who's broke. I mean, he's not going to be able to support you or any possible future kids is he? You girls need some security.. Certainty. Anyway.. I've grown up now. I think.

Maybe I'm rambling on?

Anyway, I'm not so broke anymore. And I wish Bart a lot of luck, I remember feeling like he described there. Probably got it worse though, my parents have been part of a religious group which isn't popular over here. I never got why they always picked on me, the worst thing is, the teachers picked on me too.

Nevermind, just don't think too much about what people might think of you Bart, that's all I'm saying. Just be you and you'll meet people who appreciate you.

And to who ever it may concern, don't do what I've done. Trying to hide a miserable past doesn't work too well either.. Hope you can do something with my silly posts, hope someone else who reads this knows he/ she's not the only one who has had a few problems. You can't fix it alone, and you can't fix it by retreating either..

Life's like a boxing-match, don't always let them beat you, you'll have to beat them back sometimes to keep it a good sport.

Nobody's perfect right? Ah well.. I'm probably boring you again? I don't care.

no pinochio, you are magic with your world

well said.there's millions of people out there with broken hearts. your never alone

Hmmm. Well then all the good lookig women with broken hearts can come over to my place and I'll show them a good time

Women are capable of making their own money and securing their own futures. I think these girls just weren't right for you. Love is something entirely different than what they showed you.

Good women don't need money


(same goes for men)

Ofcourse they are, but I think you know you'll rarely see women choosing the guys who happen to be beneath their station?



I know, just saying I'd understand a more practical way of thinking too.

I agree with this statement. Women usually go after self-confident, thus successful and determined guys, who usually have better status and can afford a good life.

no i think your very wrong. women are ruled by their heart. in this day and age we support ourselves and love who our heart desires not whats on his bank balance.
anyways the men that have a bulging wallet are too mean to share it.

That would tell me you're a wonderful person then, but if I'm so wrong about this, how come this is what I see happening time after time?



That's what I'm trying to explain, it might not be all about the money for women, but some of the more important things that women seem to like about a man are usually very status-related. I'm not attacking anyone, I'm just trying to figure it out for myself why and how..

So you don't have to tell me any different, because I do remember walking around in a uniform and suddenly becoming oh so very interesting where I really wasn't so very interesting in my electrician outfit. But still the same person.

Really that's when the girls really started to confuse me. Hey, don't take it all wrong, I don't believe everyone's the same or thinks alike.

Just very curious about the truth.

we all are arien we could go on about this forever.
i see people using people every day.its turning into a sad fact of life.any one that seems genuine just seems to get used and abused. its turning into a fight to survive society.i have lots of friends who are the most kind loving gentle generous people and have been used and are alone now. its a cruel world out there and to find someone genuine you probably have to go through hundreds of losers. the key is to not give up. struggle on.
there are good people out there. a dying breed but at least we are struggling for survival. we wont become extinct

Maybe that's easier for you then, but for each and every time I got fooled a little part of me corrupted too.

In other words, if I would allow myself to be going through hundreds of losers then that might change me into someone I really don't like. So I'm just going to be very patient, if not careless (In a very optimistic way though!).. And just mind my own bussiness.

I should shut up now, I'm really just rambling on.

your not rambling and its not easy for me either but if i give up i may as well curl up and die.yes there are parts of me that die when iv given my all and its thrown back in my face but i believe with true love they can come back to life.i thought i found it once but it was all one sided. 13 of your life is a lot to give to some one. but i believe and hope it hasnt all been in vain. so cheer up your bound to have bad days. tomorrow might be different.

Thank you all for your condolneces. Yes, he is missed very much, but I believe that there is another true love out there for me to complete another chapter in my book of life. I believe that as we go thru life it's like a book. The book is not finished until we are. It contains many chapters which are very happy, very sad, but I believe that is how we learn and grow. I'm still waiting for my to be complete and some day it will be.


Love differs from heart to heart, love can be good and can be bad. To love and be loved is the perefect ingredients to happiness but to love and not be loved back well that's darkness in your soul. Being in love is like a drop of water after years of drought, it eases your soul's pains of life. Being in love is a feeling not all humans will experience. So if you have it or had it.....cherish it and just love it for what it is or was.

Częsć mam na Imię Sledz, Miło pania poznoć....

Sledz, you are my first love on this Forum, but will leave it at that!

Its better to love once than not love at all.

Well, Arien, wish me luck, although I'll remain skeptical about things called life and love, and I wish it was true, really

I'm really doing fine dear. Just telling something about the time when I wasn't.



Good luck Bart, you're not a bad fellow if I may say so, and I'm sure someone else will agree with me too.



It is, but what bothers me the most is that someone else might think she wasn't loved at all because of how I reacted.. I can't forgive myself for this.

And pingwin, I'm sorry to hear about all of that, and I really admire your strength. I'm tough when it comes to dealing with agression and serious problems, but to speak so many wise words in such a beautiful way after all you've been through shows you're being so much tougher really.

I hope you'll find what you're looking for, same goes for Audrey and Bart, you're good people. You've all helped me a little today. So before I'm off to play the fool again tonight..

Thank you.

i dont want to intrude but have you tried to speak to her and let her know. affairs of the heart are never easy but i hate to see someone tormented when things can be rectified.
and if we've helped a little then my day today has not been wasted. good luck arien

I don't believe that will do any good, but thanks for trying to help anyway.